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What to Do When He Cheats On You and Mend Your Broken Heart

He cheated on you and you just found out and consequently all you are feeling is rage and pain. Can you learn to trust again and heal your broken heart?

Having someone close to us betray us can make us look at the whole world differently. We trusted them but they broke that trust, so where do we go from here? Forgive them or dump them, what do we do?

Our self esteem will take a enormous hit due to his cheating and drives us insane trying to figure out why he did it, were we not beautiful enough? Good enough? What were we not providing in the relationship that caused him to go elsewhere for it? You need to analyze his affair and what went not right in the relationship even if you cannot forgive him.

Was it an affair or a one-night stand? It may not be his entire fault, as a full blown affair could imply any number of things. As of lately, how have things been between the two of you? Which are you doing more of lately, arguing or having fun? Is your relationship in a rut?

If it was a one-night stand, why was he tempted? How well did he know the other girl or had he just bumped into her? Do you believe this could occur again, what’s more you’ll need to look at your relationship.

Even though you are extremely angry at him, you must open up the lines of communications with him. Finding out if the relationship is something you value fixing or not, must be done. Be blunt and ask him to be truthful and why he did it. Is he remorseful? Your relationship to continue and succeed, does he want it? It will hurt you deeply but you need him to tell you what he is looking for in your relationship and if he is getting it. You may want to give the relationship another go if they are things you think you can give.

It’s time to move on if he tells you the things that he needs either isn’t you or you just don’t think you can do. Neither of you are the right one for each other. Cheating all over again is what he’ll do if you pretend to be someone you are not.

If you choose to stay with him – you have to tell him it will take awhile to build that trust back up and then you will forgive him. Don’t tell him that you have forgiven him then throw it back in his face every time you think something is wrong, you are not doing him or yourself any favors. If you are having trouble trusting him again then you may want to try counseling, it’s a difficult thing to learn to do again.

Now if you have chosen to let him go you may still have trouble trusting other guys. The new boyfriends deserve your honesty as you do not want to make them pay for your ex’s mistakes as this will only drive them away.

You need to learn from this situation so it doesn’t happen again, or hopefully you can see the signs before it happens. Healing your broken heart after his cheating is not an easy task, but you have to do what is right for you. Even if you do not trust him, believe in yourself.

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